He hates her! How can I help my toddler love their new sibling?
Updated: May 6
Momma, you have been so prepared for your new baby's arrival. You spent hours chatting with your toddler - they were excited and loved blowing kisses on your tummy.
You read all the parenting guides on handling new siblings, and bought a gift for baby to 'give' to their big brother/sister. You made sure you weren't holding baby when they first came in to the room...
And for a while, it worked.. They seemed so happy to have this new baby. Maybe you even thought you had escaped the 'toddler regression' that everyone warned you about?
But, now baby's a bit bigger, on the move, and big sibling is letting you know they are NOT happy about it.
All of a sudden their behaviour has changed
- Biting, or hitting
- tantrums and throwing toys
- won't sleep in their own bed anymore
- night wakings..
Here is a story for you to tell to your toddler, to help them have the confidence that they are loved by you, that they belong to your family, no matter what.
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It's based on an activity designed by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott, authors of the Positive Discipline series.