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Struggling to get out of the door? Or get them to bed? - Let's talk routines

Updated: Oct 24


We came back from a year of travelling around the UK in a motorhome (if you want to know more about that, read ecofamilyexplorers.atack.fr) and I thought that morning routines would be easy - my kids were now 10, 8 and 5, they leave for school at 7.35, how hard can it be to get yourself ready to leave the house?!!

I mean, surely I can simply wake up, get my coffee, help them find a few last minute things, and off they are, out of the door with Dad to catch the bus?



Hmmm... In reality, my mornings were more like this! I was a super grumpy mum, running around after them, nagging them. For the entire 45 minutes between waking up and getting them out the door, all you could hear in my house was 'Get out of bed. Put the book down. Go eat breakfast. Put the book down. Get dressed. Put the book down (are you getting the picture?!!) . That was for the two eldest. And for the youngest - well, I'd wake her up, get her dressed, get her downstairs, even carrying her if needed. And then get annoyed with her because she only ate two teaspoons of cereal before declaring she'd had enough...


So we went back to basics, and re-built our routine chart. To be honest, this was a tool we'd used very early on in our Positive Discipline journey, and I thought we'd moved beyond it now. Obviously, I was wrong! In a family meeting, we talked about what we needed, and came up with the order things needed to be done in. Originally, the routine chart had breakfast first, but that didn't work for Nathanael (who would then sit at breakfast for 20 mins while waking up slowly) so we had to adjust when we saw it wasn't working.



We then took photos of the kids doing each of the jobs (yes, including going to the toilet!) and stuck them up on the bedroom door.

In our routine chart, we've included

  • getting dressed

  • eating breakfast

  • clearing up from breakfast

  • going for a wee

  • making your bed

  • putting away clean clothes

  • brushing your teeth

  • getting your schoolbag ready

  • putting on shoes and coat

  • sitting waiting on the white bench - this is where reading time can happen


Once the routine is agreed, you need to make sure it's in a visible place. That's because just making the routine chart isn't normally enough to ensure it gets followed, every morning. They're going to forget/go back to old habits. When that happens, your job as a parent is to ask the question "What's next on your routine chart?" This is because we want to "let routines be the boss" I often bring my kids infront of the photos, without a word, and that's enough.. The more non-verbal, and question based we can be, the more co-operation we will invite from our kids..


What does your routine chart look like?






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